Things do not have to be done in front of children
There are a number of actions that should not be done in front of children so as not to affect their mental state and make them pay attention to things that are not commensurate with their age.
1-Bathing
Many mothers take a shower with or in front of children and consider this to be normal and not a problem.
But in fact, it is not desirable. The child should not be accustomed to seeing the body of the mother or the father, but the importance of preserving the privacy of the body must be firmly in their minds. No one can see or touch it.
As for the mother's need to protect the child, the mother must give an explanation for this. The child can not shower at this stage alone, and he will be able to do this later.
The mother must take advantage of the time of the child's warmth in the definition of the organs of his body, and how precious and can not be seen by anyone.
2. Change clothes
Also, the father or mother should not change the clothes in front of the child, but must enter the room and close the door to feel the child the extent of privacy of the matter.
Because it is difficult to leave the baby alone, he or she is excluded from this child until the age of two years. However, when he or she is three years of age, clothes should not be replaced.
The importance of this is in the child's awareness of the privacy of the matter, so as not to tell his colleagues or teachers or any strangers what he sees.
What a child's vision of a mother or father during changing clothes will increase his curiosity to explore the genitals of the body, and can do some erroneous behavior is still at a young age.
3 - the quarrel between the couple
The quarrel between the couple in front of the child affects his or her psychological state. This leads to aggression and causes feelings of fear and anxiety all the time. He will also feel insecure and unstable.
This leads to a decline in the level of educational achievement and tends to be isolated and introverted, and thus becomes a shy and non-social and has no confidence in himself and will become a weak personality.
As the child ages, he will misinterpret life and fear the future and the idea of marriage.
Parents must, therefore, agree not to quarrel with children and try to solve problems in a good way through rational discussion.
If there is considerable disagreement, the parents must speak in a closed room, or when the child is not at home.
4 - sexual caresses
Some parents think that the little child will not realize what is going on between them. It is a mistake, because the child focuses on these things, and does not forget them easily.
Therefore, any sexual intercourse between the spouses should be postponed after the child's sleep, and this should be in the bedroom alone, making sure that the child can not enter the room during the exercise of intimacy between them.
On the other hand, there is no objection to sharing romantic feelings of love through the simple words and behaviors between the couple, such as the embrace, to apply this at the same time with the child, to know that the relationship between them is dominated by love.
5 - Complaint of husband or wife
Many couples talk about the other party in an inappropriate way or complain about it with relatives or friends, and this is in front of the child, and it may be up to talk with the same son about the problems and disadvantages of the partner.
The child is not part of the problem between the spouses, so it is not his fault to listen to these conversations that cause the father or mother to be underestimated, both must keep a role model in front of the child.
It is necessary to teach the child that it is not permissible to talk about the father or the mother in a bad way but to preserve their image in front of everyone.
6 - to do the wrong habits
Before you have children, you should think carefully about changing the lifestyle for the better and avoid the wrong habits that we do daily, so as not to hurt the child.
As the child simulates father and mother, and any wrongdoing in front of him will be considered normal and no objection to its application.
The most common misconceptions that can affect the child: smoking, gossip, eating unhealthy foods, lying, and others.
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